悶熱地看天下

Dear CC,

These day really hot. These two week, in the weekend, i have not much schedule ahead..i stayed at home to escape the hot wave outside.

At home, my schedule is indeed bored to the hk ppl.

I just sat and opened a fan, and just drank water. No snack..

And just two entertainment, one is TV, another is internet.

hahaa. is it bored enough??

But this setting kill my time for 2 days...at least..hehe

When i think what is our ppl doing these day, i will prefer myself stay at home. I dun want to go to some crowded place like beach, and shopping mall. I dun hate this kind of activities but i hate ppl doing the same stuff together.


When i faced the heat wave every years, i really felt i am becoming more mature ( old), in the early part of my life, i will try some outdoor activities. but now, i dun want to go out......even go to kwai fung.........

Hope it is not my true feeling, it just the temperature is too hot for going out. You know my tap will turn on when i am on the street.......( the sweat kept on coming out from my body)


Human is like this, when facing the heat wave, they will think of cool weather, when the cool weather come, they will think of summer's short outfit...

For me, i will try to experience in every moment now. I will try to find a merit on what circumstance i am living.......because happy is a day, and unhappy still a a day..

hehee..This month , i am learning how to sit and think in a deep aspect.

e.g. I may sit in the Cafe de coral.. and watch ppl's eating behaviour. why this family dun go out..why this couple stay at Rambler Crest, why the worker work like this, this will tune my mood better..
Because my belief is every person do something must have their reason..

Let see my thought will have any modification in a deep winter.

DT

其實假設如果.........我們真的可以一起嗎??

Dear CC,

I long time no write in the blog, the reason because i always communicate with you these days..

This topic is pre-seted in a month ago, i just wonder we can be lived or worked together if no barrier between us??

Why i have this thought in my mind nei..

It is because we are too ideal in the dating stage,

We have a perfect dating time,
We have a perfect not dating time.. ( to generate a good mood of missing)
We generate surprise upon one is busy
We treasured much of and most of our meeting time.
Actually all our time is dating, no need to think ( or no future to think) the other aspect.
Actually we just enjoyed all our time.
Actually because of no future, then our belief will become no target,,,,,we did just we want.


a.It is good for dating. and ideal for a sweet date, but is it provide a good support for a long term relationship??

To answer this question, i just generate another question,.........

b.How to maintain a sweet love affair without a target...? i.e. If you drive a car, you will feel comfortable when you cannot see the road clearly?

The answer of b, the underlying issue lied on our trust of each other, our promise to each other. But the most important is the TRUE altitude towards each other... I just imagine if no truth is shared among ourselves..no love can be generated.

Truth is 殘酷..we all know this fact.
Given this fact in our mind, we indeed did a great presentation to each other.
We keep on telling the truth to each other although we not yet ask........

Like all of my ex-gf's behaviour, like yr family issue, your teeth status.etc.

We gave out our heart to each other. Like we always presented a naked heart to each other....

So our communication is very pure...no secret is kept in our mind.

Maybe our strange combination make our linkage very tight.

And this explained why i felt our combination is loose initially. The reason is i cannot share your trustiness, but we solved it by keeping talk and talk and fill up our unknown gap.. Then our linkage will become tight again.

I answer my thought towards question b.

And regarding to the question a,

My answer is lie on our communication..

I define communication has three distinct categories.
From heart,,and From behavior,From our presentation.

In behavior mode, i must treat you good as every BF in all around us.
In the heart mode, i think it depends on the attractiveness between us. If i do think we are attract each other in a great extent, then we can keep to treat each other good and the feeling can be maintained.
In the presentation mode, it is critical, the key is we can keep our lengthy conversation or not.
And can keep our variety of our communication.
Like SMS, email. phone and 3G....

I just know if it can kept....i can say our relationship will last ..

I remembered tightly that our concern is whether we will have another affair.....
This concern is not a threat,, because in the day one, with you.... i do not have space for others..

And given my personality,,,,, if i have another girl,,,,,beforehand, you will discover it in advance....

And truly speaking, if i can get you.....i certainly will not risk to the others... it is for sure..

hahaa

But we know if we can together at last,, and our communication become less frequent.. problem must be happened.......hahahaa..

But you know in this stage,, i still cannot bear " you get angry for me" for one minute...

I dun like the one i love to suffer... at least in my control..

I dun like the i love to be have alone feeling or sad....or get in trouble or get in a scenario that out of control...it is really my way of loving girl..really..

hehee..

CC again.. I love you..hehe

好情人特質

好情人特質, i didn't mean that i am a good lover, but i agreed what the author mentioned.
And the author expressed it in words. and linked with 幸福

我想自己跟許多人一樣，]在感情上都有痛苦的經驗，每一回經過努力卻發現得不到結果的愛情，會讓人無力也沮喪，所以我一直認為在愛情裡，失敗並不一定是成功之母，如果因為老是沒眼光找個好男人或好女人，累積愛情失敗的經驗，會讓自己越來越沒信心，也質疑幸福真的存在嗎？

而且我們的感情難免都會背負著過去的經驗，或錯誤的看法，比方說從小看父親權威式的對待母親，自然小孩長大後，不懂得尊重女性，或認為受委屈也是應該的。

第 一次戀愛經驗也很重要，如果你碰到一個自私的對象，在愛情裡受盡傷害，或是因為不懂得看人，誤以為自己已經很認識對方，交往後才發現對方真正的缺點，期待 破滅，因為初戀最純真，所以傷痛也最直接，如果不幸還曾發生過關係，創傷更大，甚至會懷疑自己的價值，在以後的感情關係裡，都會充滿了不安全感。

以下是邦尼威爾博士(Dr. Bonnie Weil)提供的建議，讓女生可以判斷一個男人是否有潛力成長並改變：

1. 願意去學習，並且一學會就馬上付諸實行 ( i can say yes, like the harmonica)

2. 能承認並有效的肯定你 (yes)

3. 自動和你聯繫 (yes)

4. 為了你，願意充實自己，也學習幫你充實自己 (yes, for your exam)

5. 他願意為你騰出時間，並時時遵守承諾 ( try to fulfill what come out from my mouth)

6. 你不在他身旁時會說他想你 ( Yes, even you beside me)

7. 願意參與情感上的溝通 ( yes, in the phone call, email and blog proof)

兩性關係順利發展的關鍵：

在兩性關係能順利發展有很多重要的關鍵，通常夫妻之間最大的問題通常是什麼？一方想要改善婚姻關係，另一方不願意；一方想要把問題談清楚，另一方不願意；一方看見可以改進的地方，另一方不以為然，一味否認。對方若不願意改變、改進，讓感情越來越好，婚姻就不會幸福。

所 以當你希望跟對方一輩子相守時，先確定他是不是一個願意不斷追求自我成長的人，很多人只會在嘴巴上說要改變，卻無法用行動證明，不敢真正付諸行動去改變！ 我們必須注意到自己的盲點和心理上的問題，因為人一定有缺點，跟不曉得自己弱點和問題的人在一起很危險，這意味著他不認為他需要調整。

還有一個重點是：很多人婚姻不幸福是因為配偶不能表達情感，對一個情感關閉的人，你能忍耐多久？願意敞開情感非常重要，這樣才能進入對方的內心世界，跟無法表達感受的人談感情簡直是自我虐待。敞開情感也可以說是慷慨付出情感，能夠慷慨付出愛！

具備成熟度和責任感也是必要的，有些人也許對你很好，但他們還不夠成熟。你會覺得好像收養了一個孩子，而不是一段成年人的感情。責任感不只是一個觀念而已，而是一個行動。人人都值得被愛，但不是人人都準備好要付出愛的責任。

一個人擁有健全的自我形象，他會喜歡自己，也能去愛別人。他不是為了別的動機才去愛人，他是為了想去愛人而愛，吵架也能就事論事溝通，不會認為對方在攻擊自己，兩人的自我形象越健全，你們的感情越穩固。

但兩人一定要來電才知道這不只是友誼，要不然對方跟別人有什麼不同呢？你和對方之間跟你和其他朋友之間有何差別，就是要有那種來電的感覺。就算對方一切條件都很好，但若你不愛他，就不要欺騙自己。

所謂的來電的感覺，不見得第一次見面就有，其實那通常是情慾的感覺。若你對某個人不是一見鍾情，不表示將來彼此了解以後不會被他吸引。其實逐漸被吸引反而比較真，因為焦點不是放在外表。當你跟對方熟悉之後就會被他整個人吸引。

這五項特質是你一生伴侶的重要條件，固然人都非完全，但是美好的婚姻卻不能沒有這些人格特質的條件，希望你不是瞪大眼睛找對象，也同時要瞪大眼睛檢視自己是否也要改進喔！

I love the way they say abt來電, hahhaaa.

The passage is from the web.

修養與知識與經歷

Dear CC,

In view back of my 30 year's life, i have two aspect need to be concluded.

The first one, am i in my expectation,,,,,,,,,,

The second one, is it fall in my imagination on a 30 old ppl??

The first one, when i looked back, 30 years old, in a hardware view,

I met my girl in the final year of 2x.

I have a house ( mortgage), i have completed a university course and a analyst exam.

I have several groups of friends. I have travelled to different place, Japan x 5, Taiwan x 1, Thailand x 2, Euro zone x 3.

I have watched my favourite football match LIVE for 2 times.

I have been a trainer in my company

I have changed my job, my tasks.

I have try to propose to ex-beloved girl

I have came across some wedding matter.

I have been a helper in a wedding party.

I have smoke for one time ONLY.

Although it seemed many event happening, but if conclusion is needed, i do think that not much stuff are worth mentioning.


Second part:

In my knowledge and my expectation, 30 year old boy must be experiened....
girl, car, house, travelling, wine, leader, friends, being hated by somebody, hahaha. and i do think in this age, i can do what i want....

Seemed only car i have not yet fulfilled,hhahaha


Conclusion,

Next 10 year, what will i be,,,,,maybe family is my next step, but i dun think it can be easily be obtained ..

And i do want to improve my 修養與知識與經歷 further.

Because when the day passed, my view really be changed..
I know i am changing from an active person to a moderate person.
But my brain keep moving and moving, so to gain more knowledge and extract more on experience is my way.

In these two years, maybe the current entertainment news and live news is not attract me alot.
So i seemed become outdated,, but i know many stuff is last forever, like some unique experience and knowledge and all the stuff is cycle. So i will use my time to explode more on that

My thinking in 30 is almost same as 20, but the position is changed. So it leads to my action or response towards many stuff is different...

10 years later, i think the situation will become more static, i mean not many dynamic issue i will cover....hahaha.

So to share my static time, i should learn more,,, and think more in different aspect....to be fully utiliized my life.

am i right?????

DT

訓練平常心

Dear CC,

Dunno why, in July, I have came across Wong Chi Wah and 林夕 's work.I have been trained to think at a logical way.

I mean i am already a logical person, now , i am also be logical in terms of other ppl.

It is called i will use other ppl's angle to view a single stuff. So in a single issue, i will come across many reason or many outcome.

In those outcome, i will know what is the position of every person, why he/she will make such decision, and from their decision or way of thinking, i will know the person's thought and their personality as well.

This kind of activity really improve myself a lot, in a internal espect.

I am not a person always like to think. I just perform my duties and that's all. My thinking just fall into my area or fall into the point that i can reach.

But during these month, i tried to move on , to be role playing with those character, from their news, books, encounter, happenings. .etc......

This kind of move will increase my knowledge to observe different ppl by their behaviour, as i assumed that every action behind every ppl must have explanation


In this process, my temper will improved. Because every ppl do every step must have explanation, so it is no way or not necessary to angry. It is a good way to have a anger management.

Anyway, I just want to express what my brain is going on in a very 抽象 aspect...

CC, again....hehehe I love you.

DT

人類11行為 至今仍無解

人類11行為 至今仍無解

〔編譯魏國金／綜合報導〕人類已經能登上月球，解開基因組的秘密，但有些人類行為，卻仍然讓科學家無法清楚解釋原因。最新一期「新科學家」雜誌就列出了十一種，包括臉紅、接吻與挖鼻孔。

這人類十一大謎樣行為是：

●臉紅：達爾文努力解釋為何演化讓我們說謊時會臉紅；當我們臉紅時，他人會有所警覺。然而，有些人認為，臉紅可能有助於化解對立，或藉由洩漏弱點而增進親密。

●笑：當我們笑時，提振情緒的腦內啡會釋放出來，這顯然是笑的原因，然而令人不解的是，一項長達十年的研究發現，平庸的言詞竟比笑話更具「笑果」。

●接吻：其原因不可能是遺傳性的，因為接吻並非遍行於所有人類社會，有理論指出，接吻與哺乳以及古人為讓孩子斷奶，而以嘴餵食的記憶有關，這強化了分享唾液與歡愉的關聯。

●作夢：佛洛伊德認為夢境表達我們潛意識慾望的理論，已不被採信，作夢被認為有助於幫助我們處理情緒，然而為何我們會夢到怪異景象，則未能妥當解釋。

●迷信：該慣常行為沒有進化上合理解釋，有科學家認為，人腦的設計是用來發現模式並推論因果，因此給了不理性信仰的空間。

●挖鼻孔：惡心、普遍的習慣，但為何四分之一的未成年人喜歡挖鼻孔？而且平均每天挖四次？有人說這有助於提升免疫系統。

●青春期：沒有其他動物會經歷叛逆、難以預測的青少年期。有人認為這段期間有助於在成年期前大腦的重整，或者讓人開始承擔責任前，進行行為的實驗。

●利他行為：從進化角度看來，不求回報的給予是怪異的行為，有人認為利他或許純粹出於給予的快樂，或有助於群體的凝聚。

●藝術：人類在繪畫、舞蹈、音樂與雕塑的表現或許等同於孔雀開屏，展現自己的求偶能力。但也可能是傳播知識與分享經驗的方式。

●體毛：身體長出纖細毛髮，粗硬毛髮則分布於生殖器官的模式與其他靈長類動物相反，有人推測，陰毛粗硬的原因可能與散播氣味、提供溫暖甚至免於擦傷有關。

●愛情：dunno why i love CC so much

Two touching HKCEE story

正生考生全科及格﹕我得咗！
【明報專訊】今屆正生書院有11名會考生，成績最好、考取8分的歐陽沛林激動落淚，坦言自己從沒想過能完成中五，並取得全科及格。放眼未來，他希望可半工讀重過新生，昨日他取得成績單後便馬上致電媽媽報喜：「媽咪，我得咗！」 20歲的歐陽沛林忐忑一夜，昨早嗓子沙啞，雙腳顫抖，緊張迎接放榜。他從校長陳兆焯手上接過成績單，發現應考7科全部及格，考獲8分，中史達D級，連最擔心的英文科亦及格，大男孩一度興奮落淚：「簡直沒想過拿到這張cert（證書）！」 8歲流連街頭 中三逃學偷竊 沛林8歲起流連街頭，中三開始逃學，其後因偷竊被判感化令 ，入讀正生，他花了4年時間備戰會考，試前挑燈夜讀，每天花6小時溫習，盼換來社會對自己的肯定。他最感激校長對他不離不棄，試途上一直鼓勵他。現時他獲聘為信興集團維修技工，簽下4年合約，每周到職訓局香港專業教育學院 進修 一天，他希望最終能入讀大學，效法師兄黃榮新。

苦學生揹重病傷痛考27分 疑患淋巴癌 考期伴病父最後一程
(明報)2009年8月6日 星期四 05:05
【明報專訊】荔景天主教中學會考 生石旻浩摘下3A，成績雖不及10優狀元，但他的堅毅卻令人動容。旻浩去年底經初步診斷，懷疑患上淋巴癌，他一邊與病魔搏鬥，一邊備戰會考，但命運仍要磨練旻浩，今年初石父證實患上胰腺癌，本身是病人的旻浩，每日犧牲溫習時間到醫院陪父親走最後一段路。
放榜大日子，成績優異的會考生都喜上眉梢，相約朋友家人外出慶祝，但旻浩黃昏卻要趕往快餐店兼職，幫補家計，至凌晨才可下班返家休息。旻浩身體較常人虛弱，母親和校長都不想他辛勞工作，只希望他多點休息，養好身子，曾勸他放棄兼職，但旻浩仍挺着說：「病情好輕微、沒事、沒事的﹗」
甫放榜即赴快餐店兼職
石旻浩今年取得27分，數學、附加數學和生物科均摘A級，物理、化學亦摘下B級，中文則考獲5級、英文奪4級，獲原校取錄升讀預科。石太直言很高興，「大家都以為他考不到今年的會考，即使考了成績亦不會好，因為他受到太多事情干擾了」。
石太說，旻浩去年底因胃潰瘍 入院，不久被發現他可能患上淋巴癌，由於年輕男子患上淋巴癌的情况罕見，醫生仍要觀察旻浩的情况，至今未能確定病情。正當旻浩憂心忡忡，今年初其父證實患上末期胰腺癌，旻浩在4、5月正值會考衝刺階段，每日到醫院陪伴父親，石父於6月初與世長辭。
荔景天主教中學校長盧詠琴表示，「旻浩的堅強，非常值得時下學生學習」，她說旻浩考獲27分是全靠自己實力，讚揚旻浩為減家庭負擔，沒有補習，「若非受病情影響，他隨時可奪5A」。
校長助尋獎學金 盼免辛勞
旻浩十分懂事，現時在一所快餐店當兼職幫補家計，盧校長說，為免旻浩過於操勞，她會積極為旻浩找獎學金，甚至願意私下「解囊」，讓旻浩不愁書簿費、其他雜費等，安心學業。她形容旻浩性格樂天，不會在校園多談自己的病情，亦沒有時常告假，「他還不時反過來安慰關心他的師生『有病咪醫囉，無事嘅﹗』」。
旻浩尚有一名就讀中一的弟弟，石太從事行政工作，月入萬元，石太說﹕「生活還可以。」
明報記者 蔡惠華

IQ Doctor

Dear CC,

I m also a fans of IQ doctor haa,

P.S. I love you

Dear CC,

I want to write something to you,, but too tired, and i found the description of the film P.S. i love you.. u watch watch la..

I am sleepy and will sleep now..
good night


DT


荷莉甘迺迪 (希拉莉詩韻飾) 是一位美麗時髦的時代女性，與青梅竹馬的玩伴謝利甘迺迪﹝謝拉畢查飾﹞結了婚，謝利是一位有趣但又性急魯莽的愛爾蘭人，他們互相了解，熟悉對方的一切。兩 人生活原本幸福美滿，羨煞旁人，但天意弄人，謝利不幸得了腦腫瘤去世，留下荷莉一個人，獨自面對未來。

謝利的離世幾乎令荷莉崩潰，可以令荷莉再站起來的相信只有最了解她的
丈夫，幸好謝利在離世前已作好安排，他了解荷莉會因他的離世而沮喪，所以事先預備了12封信，伴她度過頭12個月沒有他的日子。

第一封信在荷莉30歲的生日送到，並附上生日蛋糕及謝利的錄音帶，囑咐她要出外和朋友慶祝生日。之後她陸陸續續收到謝利以不同方式留給她的信，每一次她都 有一個新的體驗，有新的得著並重新認識自己•••每一封信，謝利都以一句 “P.S. I love you” 作結尾，讓荷莉仍然感受到他對她的愛。

荷莉的母親卻擔心這樣反而會令她對謝利更加留戀，更加依賴，但事實是每一封信都引導荷莉向前看，讓她對婚姻、友誼有新的看法，知道濃烈的愛可以轉化成為動力，讓她走出陰霾，在自己的人生旅途上重新出發。

希望你收到呢份小禮物

Dear CC, I have bought you a present at 31 Jul 2009 night at Tai Koo Shing. You see the package, I have a letter put inside. And i wrote it with my left hand,,,very ugly...

Do u know my Plan nei..

1. Bought a light present.
2. Put it into a telephone booth near SSP branch ( must be at deep night ). I chose the time after 1200.
3. CC will not notify it.
4. Hope that night no one use the telephone booth.
5. Inform CC about the present. But how??
6. Hope she happy when she get the present.

Preparation, find a present,,,find a place to put the present..
Evaluation,,, found a place near SSP, and you must come across it in your morning journey. But i think just more than 50% of chance i will be successful.

Until now,, i still have a problem, I directly talk on phone with you on 1 Aug morning,,,,,or just leave you SMS nei..

Problem 1, if by SMS, i am afraid you will not yet open the 9863, and if send to 968x, i am afraid you will notice it at too advance.
Solution, send it at 0800,,,,,,but it seemed CC have too much time think on the bus.......
if i send it on the bus, CC may miss the SMS.
If the present is here,,,,,, that's good.. perfect scenario,, surprise............!!!
If the present is not here, that's bad,,,,,,,,,,,very worse..and you may look this blog to get the solution..

Problem 2, if i phoned you,
If the present is here,,,, that's good, i can hear your excitement,, but seemed not enough surprise.
If the present is not here,, very very worse,,then you may say i am a low B boy........

Complicated issue..

Anyway, i drafted the SMS sin,,,
Maybe use both method la..

Try to SMS you,,,,,around 0810,,, and then ask you to phone me after the bus..........i seemed work,, i will try try..

Hope this surprise really can surprise you,, and happy all day................

Lastly , tell you i made it la.

I take minibus from Tai Ko Shing to mong Kok,, after the minibus,, i talked with you,,,,,,and i walked and walked to SSP branch,, quite a long journey, but with you..........everything become ease....then when i reached SSP branch, i stop your phoneat 0000.

I watched the telephone booth for around 10 minutes,, and then i went to the booth to stick the present....the time is around 1215 afterwards,, then i observed it for another 5 min, then i left and back home lu.

Really hope you can get the present.

P.S. If you cannot get the present, i will buy one the same to you again, no need panic..hehe



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